Every time someone provides you with a cup of tea, and you expect it, you collect the karma and also you re-habituate the selfish mind. You harm yourself. You get the moment's thrill but ultimately, it's not good. Don't sit there and wait for money from someone. If you really need it and also you get it, it's wonderful; but do not blackmail and manipulate for it.

The message here is that it's time to bring Dharma home. I want everybody to try. If you think of me as your Guru, spiritual guide or teacher, that is my instruction to you. If you think of me as a friend, that is my request. If you think of me as an excellent individual whom has lived life and who knows a little little more, this really is me on my knees begging and pleading with you. It will not matter to me the way you wish to view me. But you'll need to do that. You need to lessen the mind that brings harm to yourself.

I'm discussing family values, and melding families and people together, because peace and love come from that. Regardless of whether we do ceremonies for monks and nuns here later on, it's not about taking people away from their families; it really is about letting them live in austerity for a while to realise just how much they have.

I want your sadhanas not to be another mantra or another initiation, running after another Lama. How many living Buddhas have you been sitting in front of and getting initiations from? And look at you, you're worse! You're not much of a living Buddha, you are a living nightmare! You do not need anymore initiations and practices and all that. What you will need is to take your mother and father out for dinner once every week, to take your wife or husband out for dinner once per week, to not nag your husband. Listen to what people tell you is wrong with you and stop that.

You want to do a sadhana every week? That is it. Do something for the very people that you live with, immediately, because that's Dharma, that is your sadhana. I am not telling you to go home and chant mantras. Would you like to be spiritual journey? Buy flowers for your wife and take her out for a meal. Stop nagging your husband. Do not cheat on your husbands and wives, in any way. You want the greatest yidam? The greatest yidam is getting behind a wheel and taking your mother or father out to eat. You want the greatest mantra? The greatest mantra is, "How are you Mummy? How are you Daddy? What can I do for you?" That's the greatest mantra, at this moment, for us.

You know what is the greatest mind? The greatest mind isn't wanting other people to change; but you yourself changing and accepting others. The greatest mind is to stop wondering when they will change. No. You should think instead, "When will I change?" That is the greatest practice.