Every time someone gives you a cup of tea, and also you expect it, you collect the karma and you re-habituate the selfish mind. You harm yourself. You get the moment's thrill but ultimately, it's not good. Don't sit there and wait for money from someone. If you really need it and also you get it, it's wonderful; but don't blackmail and manipulate for it.

The message here is the fact that it's time to bring Dharma home. I want everyone to make an attempt. If you think of me as your Guru, spiritual guide or teacher, that's my instruction to you. If you think of me as a friend, that is my request. If you think of me as a great person who has lived life and who knows just a little little more, this is me on my knees begging and pleading with you. It does not matter to me the way you wish to view me. But you'll need to do that. You may need to lessen the mind that brings harm to yourself.

I am speaking about family values, and melding families and people together, because peace and love come from that. Even if we do ceremonies for monks and nuns here later on, it is not about taking people away from their families; it is about letting them live in austerity for a while to realise how much they have.

I want your sadhanas not to be another mantra or another initiation, running after another Lama. How many living Buddhas have you been sitting in front of and getting initiations from? And look-at you, you're worse! You are not much of a living Buddha, you're a living nightmare! You do not need anymore initiations and practices and all that. What you need is to take your mother and father out for dinner once per week, to take your wife or husband out for dinner once every week, to not nag your husband. Listen to what people tell you is wrong with you and stop that.

You want to do a sadhana every week? That's it. Do something for the very people that you live with, immediately, because that's Dharma, that is your sadhana. I am not telling you to go home and chant mantras. Would you like to be spiritual journey? Buy flowers for your wife and take her out for a meal. Stop nagging your husband. Do not cheat on your husbands and wives, in almost any way. You want the greatest yidam? The greatest yidam is getting behind a steering wheel and taking your mother or father out to eat. You want the greatest mantra? The greatest mantra is, "How are you Mummy? How are you Daddy? What can I do for you?" Which is the greatest mantra, at this moment, for us.

You know what's the greatest mind? The greatest mind isn't wanting others to change; but you yourself changing and accepting other people. The greatest mind is to stop wondering when they will change. No. You should think instead, "When will I change?" Which is the greatest practice.